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I am caring for my aging disabled father in myhome and want to now if you can get compensated for it to cover some of the bills, we live in Phoenix, AZ. Ifanybody hasiany answers please let me know.
My aunt is elderly (89) and only has social security income. She is not able to pay her Minnesota property taxes. Are there any tax assistance programs in Minnesota that could help?
As a recent Retiree from the Navy I would like to add a few things about the VA:
1) If the person was released from the military for a Disability or Retired after 20 years of service, you will need thier DD 214 before contacting the VA Hospital for Medical appointments. If you don't have one, you can still contact them for a starting place to receive a replacement.
2) To increase the person's Disability Compensation you will need a Medical History from the time of departure to the present. You will also need the original Disability Rating Letter issued from the VA.
3) The biggest misconception is that a Disabled/Retired Millitary member has to go to a VA hospital to be seen!! This is not true, the person can sign up for TRICARE Prime and see a doctor that accepts TRICARE in thier home town. TRICARE has a list of approved doctors for your area. I pay $460 a year for a Family Plan that allows me to see a doctor who is only 5 miles from my home. If the person is on Medicare/Medicad the regular TRICARE will pick up all copays. Contact TRICARE and they will explain all of the details.
4) Most states now have a state sponsored Veteran Office that help Veterans and thier families through the paperwork process. A quick internet search or phone call to the VA should help you get in touch with the right people.
I am in no way affiliated with the VA or any other organization, just a retired Vet that is trying to help people get pointed in the right direction.
My grandmother is 88 and has recently come to live with my husband and me. She lived with my mother and step father, and one month after my mother passed away, my step father told her she had to leave. We had no choice to take her in because she had nowhere else to go. She has some money saved and receives social security, but we don't think she has enough to go into a community on her own. Where can we start to even begin to sort this out? She cannot stay with us given her age and the layout of our house, her forgetfulness to turn off burners while we are at work and locking herself in the garage. Your advice is appreciated.
i live with my 84 year old mother, her health has been declining in the last 4 years, i work a job, i only make 8.25 per hour and i have been there for 8 years. no insurance, no retirement, no anything. when my mother isn't doing well and can't be left home alone and i stay with her, i don't get paid. i am financially ruined. my mother's s/s barely sees her through the month, so she can't help me with my bills. i promised her i would never put her in a nursing home. neither of my brother's bother to help me. they travel, play golf, etc. i haven't been on a date in over 5 years. i am 54 years old and now i am starting to have some health problems. mostly due to stress. i have anger problems, depression and i can't sleep very well. somebody please help me
Boy, I really identify with "emacmahan" I am 56 years old and have been taking care of my 85 year old mother since my father died almost 5 years ago. I was working full time and trying to take care of her at the same time. As her needs increased I found myself having to take "a lot" of leave without pay, and was becoming sick more often and struggling to keep it all together, including keeping my job. My stress level has been off the charts. My one brother finds it very difficult to be involved with mom, and so is for the most part, not in the picture. It's a terrible feeling of being alone and sometimes scared that you won't be able to hold it all together. You are a very brave person, who should be praised for the love and care you are giving your mother. I want to share with you a possible opportunity that a friend told me about and which I am now involved in. I don't know if your state provides this option, but I will at least share with you and then you can check to see if your state provides anything like it. It's a program available through Medicaid that pays an adult child to be the caregiver of their parent. This program is called COPES and again is for sure offered through "Washington State" Medicaid, but don't know which other states, if any offer this option. I will say that it is quite an involved and lengthy process, and ultimately, after indepth assessments in your home and a very detailed finanicial evaluation, they decide if you parent and you qualify to be involved. They will then establish how many hours per month they will pay you to take care of your parent. Depending on the level of your parent's needs, they will establish how many hours they will pay you for. It can be minimal or more... It might be worth your time to check and see if your state provides this kind of option (COPES program), or even something else that would be similar. With the COPES program you should be prepared to provide very detailed information about your parent's total income and all property and assets, as well as providing the total income for the household your parent lives in. A background check has to be done so be sure to have a valid driver's license and either your SS card, birth certificate or current passport ready at hand. Again, it's quite a lengthy qualification process, but it's well worth the effort if you qualify. Hope this encourages you to check with your state's Department of Social and Health Services to see if they have anything like this available. Hang in there, you are so not alone! God bless! 244kind
I take care of my Moms need because of Parkinsons(All medical apt/ banking , Transportatin,bathing , all health needs. Is there any money through social security or other programs , or some kind of stipend to help with some of my daily expenses. I had to quite my job because of needs that she needs for a good qualitiy of life/ Thankyou..Lonna
my mother (77) recently had back surgery, after 2 months of therapy she still can not walk. before this she lived alone and was very dependent. she does not want to go to a care center and wants to live a home. Can I get some king of government compensation (or other plan) to take care of her? At the moment I am not working and not financial free./thank you
well good luck, i live in the state of south carolina and so far no one as been able to help me with anything. i have tried s/s office, i have tried verybody, everyone seems completley stupid when i ask. i did manage to get a $25.00 gas card from the american cancer society. and by the way, since my last comments, we were told my mother has stage 3 lung cancer. and i lost my job over all this and neither of my brothers still don't bother to help. i blame our government. look at all the money that is wasted in this country. that could help people like us. i still can't get over spending 160 million dollars on the presidential parades, balls and all that crap when our country is in the state it is. we have americans who can barely live and some are starving. shame on our government. i walk out of the grocery stores and there are more and more people wandering and begging for food. shame, shame, shame on our government.
My 84 year old grandmother who is bed ridden with alzheimer's and my 50 year old mentally retarded aunt has been living with me since Hurricane Ike in September of 2008. Together they receive $1200 a month which is not enough to take care of the monthly expenses. What type of funding is available to help me continue to care for them?
I am the caretaker for my 93 yeart old mother and have been since 2001. She is fiesty, stubborn and cute as a button. I am 68 and disabled. Her socilal security qualifies her for several programs which have been a godsend to me.
Understand, I have access to a speakerphone (essential when dealing with any agency) and a computer with high speed internet access ( available at a library or community center)
Through endless hours and endless patience, I have had mom's medicare premium of $96. mo removed
Some states do provide a very modest compensation for family caregivers. It varies state to state. Our state, NC, does not. Being a family caregiver myself I understand the sacrifices we all make in our professional and personal lives to care for our elderly parents, but why should the government pay us to do it? That's why our nation is where it is now, entitlement programs.
I amj in california. The only program I can find is Office on Aging. They will guide tou thur their program. It takes from 4 to 6 weeks for a home interveiw. They then let you know if you quailify as a home caregiver. It sounds like the cope program that 244kind spoke about. Only this info is for the state of calif. I found this info thur the local senior citizen office. Hope I helped someone out there.
can anyone help, i just recently removed my mother from a nursing home and want to do all i can to keep her at home she suffers from alzheimers/dementia she is still young 65 and am trying to find programs that will help me fix my home so she can have access to getting outside, taking showers, and trying to get a room done for her so she can have her own room. my mom has suffered from this for about the last 10 years. i know she is young to be having this but i am just trying to do all i can for her, i have been in the medical field now for the past 21yrs and never in my life did i think i would be caring for my own parent... anyone got answers or suggestions..thank you all.
I was doing my parent's taxes and was wondering can my mother claim my father as a dependent,she has the job and makes decent money and provides for more than 50% of her income to take care of him, but will she need to claim the small check he receives from SSI or not. I can not find any information on this. Thank you for any responses.
To wakeupamerica: Why shouldn't we expect help for the government?? Our government spends millions of dollars helping other countries and even gives medicaid to illegal aliens!! If any of you live in the State of Vermont, they have a plan for helping caregivers financially. Just don't move to Alabama. There is nothing available to those of us who quit our jobs and our lives to care for a loved one. I have been caring for my mother who is bedridden, on a feeding tube, oxygen, diapers, etc for nearly six years. I had my father to care for also until his death in 2004. My husband and I have exhausted my retirement money and are now dipping regularly into our savings. At this rate, there will soon be nothing left. We have worked, paid taxes, etc all of our lives and are just trying to do the right thing. I have no regrets about expecting something back from a government that has used my taxes so ineptly for years!!
To ginger123: Your last statement is exactly why our government won't pay family caregivers to care for loved ones...because they are inept at what they do. And while the cost to maintain a loved one at one is far cheaper than LTC, I still am alarmed by the number of people that expect to be compensated for caring for their parents!!!! Sorry, my parents didn't "expect" compensation from the government when they were raising their children. As a former welfare worker and now working in the aging field; FDR's new deal program in the 30's went very different than he intended. It's led our society to feel that you can live as irresponsibly as you want, and the govt. will bail you out one day.
In many cases, I feel the person asking for pay are having a hard time being able to make ends meet. I don't know that it is necessarily being paid to take care of a loved one, as much as simply loosing or quitting their jobs to do home care. Unfortunately these things are not planned for or talked about with family before it becomes necessary.And yes that part is our responsibility. But I applaud families that try to keep loved ones out of nursing homes, as the government is surly not doing their job in that situation. Times are very hard and yes to some extent we got ourselves here, but to ask for some sort of compensation because caregivers can not work out of the home is not unreasonable. And I'm sorry to say my late father made me feel guilty and shamed for every dime he ever had to spend on me growing up. And I took care of him the last 8 years of his life for no pay. So there is two sides to this story. My hope is that you read other posts that also tell of the sacrifices most make to keep family members at home.One of my dear friends on this sight lost a job opportunity because a "paid" caregiver did not hold up her end of the contract. And I'm sure the "pay" was coming out of her pocket. This sight is here for us to come together to support each other without judgment or shame. Take what you need and leave the rest. There are some very wonderful people on this sight that have saved my sanity, made me laugh, made me cry, and given me insight to deal with issues as they come up. We can not know what some go thru and they may have difficulty expressing themselves. Bottom line.......Caregiving is one of the most difficult jobs in life, and there should be no shame in asking for compensation. Thank you for sharing how you feel and I hope you keep coming back here and let us know who you take care of and some of your ups and downs. God bless
I am getting burnout I got to paid for expense in another state. I also got to help pay expense at my mom house who have alzheimer and we are struggling to eat everyday because our funds is low. we both get ssi but that not enough. so please tell me how i can keep care for my mom with no help. Please help me if anyone know of programs that can help us.
I am 24 years old with a four year old son. I am taking care of my diabled mother who is only 52. She was an RN and sufferd a series of major strokes. I have been told I cant get paid to take care of her because they own a house, two cars, camping trailor, and have life insurance and my dad has a retirement account. The state wants them to have sold EVERYTHING and cashed in their RETIERMENT before they will even consider paying me for taking care of her. I take care of her 50 hours a week while my dad works so they can keep their house and pay for food. I drive her to her therapys, give medicen, and do house work. How can I get paid for this? My parents are struggling just to pay for food. I cant ask them to pay me. But I need an income. My husband was laid off and unemployment only last so long. Im stuck.
ikirby, I can sympathize with your situation. We are also living on unemployment which does not cover the bills, and only lasts so long. Also caring for my father age 74. It is sad the way the system is set up. I also must exhaust all of my dad's assets in order to pay for his assisted living soon. Your dad is lucky he is still able to work. I guess it takes a lot of research to find the answers to these difficult questions. Maybe you and your family could move in with your parents. Or maybe they could downsize, to where things are more manageable. Or maybe.......Oh well, if you find some answers let me know, I could use some too. Good Luck to you! Naus
Nauseated- though hours of web searches and many phone calls there might be hope. One site said to call my sate reps. So I have a call into them. Lets cross our fingers and hope they know of something.
wakeupamerica, Well when most of us decide to have children and become parents, thats a choice that we have made thats our decision. But when our parents become disabled sometimes overnight and need to be cared for thats not our decision nor a choice its just life that happens, and some parents do n ot want to be put in a nursing home and when your the only child of theirs that will care for them then that responsibility falls on you and you have no choice. Some of us had prior jobs and had to quit so we could care for them, thats why we should be compinsated for what we are doing! we still have our bills to pay and life still goes on. So if you have a problem with that then there is something wrong! I love my parents that is why I am caring for them but I cant do that if I have to go back to work. They would die if they had to be put in a home so I think you are wrong. Pintos
I agree with pintos I have to say. We are spending lots to help other citizens of other countries. Why shouldn't we help those families (law abiding, american, tax paying citizens) that have given up everything to care for their loved ones, and who risk losing everything they and their parents have worked for all their lives? Will the government care for our parents while they are institutionalized? Will they care what the quality of care given to them is, when they run out of money and assets?
My husband retired 5 years ago due to deteriorating of discs in his back and neck. his Dr removed some out of his neck and said the other ones got worst as he went down. He said he could no longer work and he gets disability we tried getting him a wheel chair because it is hard for him to stand or to walk more than a few feet but his Dr refused to sign the paper work because he didn't diagnose his disability.
He really needs that hoverround to be able to get out of the house. please advise!
Call medicare. If you dont qualify explain the situation and see if they can review his case and at least send out a case worker to label him as officially disabled.
To Brennybb, If he is receiving disability payments from Social Security or a private insurance plan, someone had to ok that claim. Maybe you can find out how the disability was diagnosed and proven to the satisfaction of the agency he receives the disability pension from and go from there. Good luck.
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8 Government Resources Every Caregiver Should Know About
1) If the person was released from the military for a Disability or Retired after 20 years of service, you will need thier DD 214 before contacting the VA Hospital for Medical appointments. If you don't have one, you can still contact them for a starting place to receive a replacement.
2) To increase the person's Disability Compensation you will need a Medical History from the time of departure to the present. You will also need the original Disability Rating Letter issued from the VA.
3) The biggest misconception is that a Disabled/Retired Millitary member has to go to a VA hospital to be seen!! This is not true, the person can sign up for TRICARE Prime and see a doctor that accepts TRICARE in thier home town. TRICARE has a list of approved doctors for your area. I pay $460 a year for a Family Plan that allows me to see a doctor who is only 5 miles from my home. If the person is on Medicare/Medicad the regular TRICARE will pick up all copays. Contact TRICARE and they will explain all of the details.
4) Most states now have a state sponsored Veteran Office that help Veterans and thier families through the paperwork process. A quick internet search or phone call to the VA should help you get in touch with the right people.
I am in no way affiliated with the VA or any other organization, just a retired Vet that is trying to help people get pointed in the right direction.
Jack
I want to share with you a possible opportunity that a friend told me about and which I am now involved in. I don't know if your state provides this option, but I will at least share with you and then you can check to see if your state provides anything like it. It's a program available through Medicaid that pays an adult child to be the caregiver of their parent. This program is called COPES and again is for sure offered through "Washington State" Medicaid, but don't know which other states, if any offer this option. I will say that it is quite an involved and lengthy process, and ultimately, after indepth assessments in your home and a very detailed finanicial evaluation, they decide if you parent and you qualify to be involved. They will then establish how many hours per month they will pay you to take care of your parent. Depending on the level of your parent's needs, they will establish how many hours they will pay you for. It can be minimal or more... It might be worth your time to check and see if your state provides this kind of option (COPES program), or even something else that would be similar. With the COPES program you should be prepared to provide very detailed information about your parent's total income and all property and assets, as well as providing the total income for the household your parent lives in. A background check has to be done so be sure to have a valid driver's license and either your SS card, birth certificate or current passport ready at hand. Again, it's quite a lengthy qualification process, but it's well worth the effort if you qualify.
Hope this encourages you to check with your state's Department of Social and Health Services to see if they have anything like this available. Hang in there, you are so not alone! God bless! 244kind
Understand, I have access to a speakerphone (essential when dealing with any agency) and a computer with high speed internet access ( available at a library or community center)
Through endless hours and endless patience, I have had mom's medicare premium of $96. mo removed
Unfortunately these things are not planned for or talked about with family before it becomes necessary.And yes that part is our responsibility. But I applaud families that try to keep loved ones out of nursing homes, as the government is surly not doing their job in that situation.
Times are very hard and yes to some extent we got ourselves here, but to ask for some sort of compensation because caregivers can not work out of the home is not unreasonable.
And I'm sorry to say my late father made me feel guilty and shamed for every dime he ever had to spend on me growing up. And I took care of him the last 8 years of his life for no pay.
So there is two sides to this story. My hope is that you read other posts that also tell of the sacrifices most make to keep family members at home.One of my dear friends on this sight lost a job opportunity because a "paid" caregiver did not hold up her end of the contract. And I'm sure the "pay" was coming out of her pocket.
This sight is here for us to come together to support each other without judgment or shame. Take what you need and leave the rest. There are some very wonderful people on this sight that have saved my sanity, made me laugh, made me cry, and given me insight to deal with issues as they come up.
We can not know what some go thru and they may have difficulty expressing themselves. Bottom line.......Caregiving is one of the most difficult jobs in life, and there should be no shame in asking for compensation. Thank you for sharing how you feel and I hope you keep coming back here and let us know who you take care of and some of your ups and downs. God bless
He really needs that hoverround to be able to get out of the house. please advise!