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i was specifically chosen for this task because I’m a longtime trusted friend that, as my friend said “understands the assignment, knows when to make the most important decisions.”Her words and I agree, so did my parents and I was their youngest child.

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I agree with Daughterof1930 that you don't owe anyone an explanation, but if you feel like responding, you can tell them the facts: "Take it up with (your friend) since she's the one who trusted me and she instructed me on what she wanted me to do when it came time." Then walk away.
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One of my greatest lessons was finally understanding that I don’t owe the world an explanation. Look at them blankly and walk on by
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How do you deal with them?
You tell them that they are out of line, and this isn't their business.
You can dress this up nicely or not, dependent on their approach.
Give you two instances:
#1. Irma, your friend's OTHER friend says "Oh, Fad. This isn't the right place for ______ (your friend. This place is awful!"
You would reply "Irma, __________(friend) trusted me implicitly in being her POA and I am fulfilling her wishes to the best of my ability. This really is my business, and isn't open for discussion."

#2 The much nicer friend of your friend says " Fad, are you pretty sure of where _____ is now?"
You say "Much nicer, I am doing as I think best, and it isn't something I as POA am free to discuss with anyone else". Big smile.

You will have here total freedom. Look them straight in the eyes with a stare that says loud and clear "YOU will NOT go HERE again".
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Ask the complainers what THEY did for your friend to help? You were assigned a job and you did what needed to be done. Remind them their opinion does not matter in this situation.
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