I strongly recommend that veterans with disability ratings check into home care through the VA. My husband has a 100% disability rating. We qualify to have home care up to 6 hours per week. We have chosen a company called Cornerstone which provides help for two hours twice a week for laundry and light house work. This is such a huge relief to me, because my husband’s medical issues require help with all ADLs.
With a 100% disability rating, if it's service-connected, your husband may qualify for financial disability payments. If you haven't already, check with your county VA rep, who can get the ball rolling with appointments for evaluation by medical providers contracted for the VA. Plus after he passes, there may be survivor benefits for you.