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My mom has a very dangerous dog. They live rurally, and he's bitten 3 people so badly that they've had to be taken to hospital. No one has reported the incidents because my mother has Alzheimer's. She's obsessed with the dog (which is part of the dog's problem) and everyone feels bad about being the one that has to have the dog put to sleep. However, I'm home now, and the dog is so aggressive he has to be locked away, as he would put me in hospital.


My dad is now realising my mom and he need some at home help, but they can't get it because of the dog. I'm only home for a week, and I'm trying to re-home him, but it's so unlikely that this will happen. Realistically, I need to have him euthanised.


I will do this on my own, without telling my mom, but what I'm wondering is, should we just tell her the dog ran off? Should we say someone hit the dog and it died while we were out? So difficult... I feel awful, but I really don't think there's hope for this poor hound.

Retired veterinarian here. States take the risk of rabies very seriously. For instance, if an unvaccinated pet bites someone while it is being euthanized, the law requires that the head be removed and the brain tested for rabies. (There is no other way to test.) The horror and expense of this procedure is something you want to avoid. Even without the risk of rabies, dog bites can be very painful, even disfiguring. I would not involve the volunteers at an animal shelter. Call Animal Control and let the professionals deal with it. I'm sorry for your mom but from what you say, she has not been a responsible pet owner and she is putting people at risk of harm. Perhaps you can get her out of the house while they come get the dog, and maybe you can make up a story for her.
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MissesJ Feb 24, 2025
Thank you for contributing with years of knowledge and experience. I am certain you love dogs, as do I, and would offer another solution if there was one.
I was bitten by a random, leashed dog three weeks ago and couldn’t have imagined the amount of tissue damage it caused. It is still healing. Thank God it was a nip and not a full-mouthed bite but I will have a nice round scar to remind me to keep even farther away from strange dogs.
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Please don’t rehome what you know to be a dangerous dog. Euthanize the dog without apology. Tell mom the dog was sick, because that’s true, a sick dog behaves this way, and had to be put to sleep. If she mourns the loss, that’s okay. No need for a more complex story
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You cannot rehome a dangerous dog!!! You must have it put down. You can either have an officer come out and get the dog and tell them it is a danger and take it to be euthanized or tell her a story. Depends on what she can understand. They could be sued for all they own. Even though the locals won’t sue, their children could. Never rehome a dangerous dog.
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Tell mom the dog was sent to a farm where he can run to his hearts content and be happy. Then buy her an interactive toy dog that's intended for Alzheimer's patients who many love and interact with better than real dogs.

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This dog should have been put down the second time he bit someone. What if he attacks a child.

With ALZ, its best to tell a little white lie but only if she asks. She may forget the dog, out of sight out of mind.
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Jacquelinezr Feb 23, 2025
I agree totally. After that second bite, he should have been put to sleep.
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I would call Animal Control for their county and have them take the dog away and deal with it, for everyone's safety. You can't in good conscience re-home a dog that is a known aggressive biter. And you shouldn't attempt to get the dog to the vet to euthanize it. Let the professionals deal with it. If it's a rural dog, it may not have any vaccinations, and could have distemper. If they don't have animal control you call the non-emergency police number and tell them about the dangerous dog that needs to be removed.

Make sure your Mom is not home or is distracted elsewhere when they come to get the dog. You tell your Mom a therapeutic fib about the dog: it needed to go to the vet for a check-up. If she has memory impairment, she may keep asking where the dog is and you keep telling her it's at the vet for a check-up. Then distract her or change the subject.
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Yes, you tell mom.
Yes, it will be hard for her and she will cry.
Crying is a part of living; we all have to mourn loved people and pets we cannot keep.

A vicious and dangerous dog is a KILLER. It is exceptionally negligent to keep such an animal alive. This dog should be put mercifully to sleep at once. Your local shelter will do this when you explain circumstances. Do not delay. My city has seen a woman literally torn to pieces and killed in her own hallway, as well as a boy, left home alone with two dogs, and mauled to DEATH.
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Jacquelinezr Feb 23, 2025
There have been too many dangerous dogs allowed to live "because we can train them", and then the dog kills a child or adult. Some dogs cannot be rehabilitated and you need to put them down to protect others.
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I wonder if she'd realize he's even gone. My mother LOVED my dog Muffin. Muffin had to be put to sleep two weeks ago because she had a brain tumor and she was in pain. I had no idea how I would tell my mom when I got home. But she never even noticed that Muffin was gone. I thought it was so strange, but she's never mentioned Muffin at all. I never brought up Muffin again. Hopefully your mom is to the stage where she wouldn't recognize the dog is gone. Also, I am glad you're putting that dog down. Just think how you would have felt if he killed someone? I've been in dog rescue for 15 years and sometimes there's that one dog that is just a danger and cannot be trained or rehabilitated. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this.
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My father had dementia and we found out his dearest friend from childhood had died. We agonized about telling him but we felt it was best because he deserved to know. It was heartbreaking to watch his reaction as he sobbed. What we didn’t take into consideration was because he would forget and then ask about his friend again and again it was heartbreak for him all over again. I wish I had never told him the truth.
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heart500 Feb 23, 2025
Friend went through this last week with husband. After telling him that his much younger best friend had died and seeing husband's reaction, she decided to skip the viewing. When husband asked about him a few days later because he didn't remember that friend had passed, she told him that she hasn't heard in a while but is sure all is well. That satisfies her husband and then it slips his mind. You have my sympathy. Honesty is not always the most compassionate way to be.
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Tell her that the dog is outside, having a great time playing. Or tell her he's in another room, taking a nap. Pretend to look for him.

SILENT, DEADLY ATTACK. See my story below.

I'm surprised you all haven't been sued. He could kill someone. The police should have been notified. After our experience (below), we realized our Rhodesian Ridgeback could have quickly and easily killed one of us. Husband is 6'3", 260 lbs. We had her for 7 months, was about 4-5 yrs old. Never seen aggression toward our cats, etc.

A large 80 lb dog we that we owned, quietly walked over to our Cocker, put his mouth on the back of dog's neck, bit and crushed everything in his neck, immediately KILLING our Cocker Spaniel. Unprovoked. Cocker was drinking water at the time in the kitchen. This was done less than 8 feet from me. I screamed. Ridgeback dragged Cocker a few feet, finished tearing out his larynx and entire throat. She smiled at me, her mouth dripping with the Cockers blood.

Why? I think she thought Cocker was being ornery (which he never was). Don't be arrogant and think you have control over dogs. You don't! BTW, the Ridgeback planned this. The day before, she came over to where I was standing in the kitchen; the Cocker was standing next to me. The R opened her mouth over the Cockers neck as though R was 'measuring' it. Strange. I had no idea that measuring was a precursor to the brutal killing of the 30 lb sweet Cocker.

We took Ridgeback to vet who agreed wholeheartedly, on putting the dog down. No one would ever be safe around dog. No one = children, animals, adults. I believe that Ridgeback didn't know she had done anything wrong. Doesn't change the potential.... BTW, she slept with my husband every night while he watched TV; cuddled up next to him. She could have quietly torn out his neck....anytime.

Story is meant to wake YOU up.
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MissesJ Feb 24, 2025
I cannot imagine how deeply saddened this made you, losing both of your beloved pets in such a tragic way. Wishing you comfort and peace.
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