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If he is unwilling to go pick him up from the ER that his dad requested to go to because of breathing problems but doesn’t want to stay now.

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I agree with others that much more detail is needed.
1. Is father competent?
2. How long ago did father move in with you?
3. What paperwork is done? Advance directives? POA? Care Contract for shared living expenses. Nothing?
4. Why did you choose to take an uncooperative elder into your own home? What were the circumstances that led you to this action.
5. How old is Dad? Does dad have assets?

Your answers will lead to perhaps some coherent answers from us.
Wishing you good luck, whether you choose to get back to us or not.
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Basically, what Fawnby said. These situations are delicate though, and a lot depends on how independent dad is or how much supervision he needs at home. If dad is not yet disabled enough to need nursing home care, and wants to go home, the hospital is going to want to send him home. You, as the family member who lives with him, must communicate to social workers why you are not able to safely take care of him at home, and why it would be unsafe for dad to go home. The hospital in these cases may be quick to voice threats of "elder abandonment" or "neglect", because they want him discharged and they don't have any other solution to offer so the first thing they do is try to get family to take him.. Usually these are empty threats, but still, you need to explain exactly why it would be unsafe for all involved if you picked him up. A valid reason for example would be if he needs someone to be with him, but you can't because you have to work, and no one else is available either. More information would be helpful to advise you on what to do.
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You aren’t giving us a lot of detail about the situation.

Fawnby’s comment answers the question we think you are asking. Do a Google search like
https://www.google.com/search?q=unsafe+discharge+site%3Aspisloshub.com
to see how others have asked and answered similar questions.

Do you have reason to believe that your father requires a legal guardian? Does he have one that is not you? Does he have or is he capable of getting a POA?

Assuming he is incompetent and has no guardian or POA, you will need to decide if you are ready to let someone else take on his financial affairs as well as his care.

Note that if you have been living with him and he is not expected to return, there will likely come a time when none of his income is available to pay the expenses of the home. You may or may not be able to stay if you personally have the funds to pay all expenses. Don’t wait too long to plan for your own future.

There is plenty of experience and advice on this site, but if you want legal advice you can rely on, consult a lawyer who specializes in the field.
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The adult child tells the hospital discharge social worker that it is an unsafe discharge because he can no longer care for dad at home. They must find a place for dad to go. Adult child must be adamant that dad can't come home.
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