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Get a social worker from your doctor . They will help you navigate elder services and give you some support . I Know I had Moments where I was so exhausted from taking care of My Mother, Brother and Father . I had a Therapist , social worker , group counseling , would call the Alzheimers hot Line . Had elder care services coming . Would go to the community acupuncture clinic for stress relief or ride My Bike and go for a long swim . Over this time I had 3 therapists and a Psychiatrist and thank god for that . Massages really help too periodically .
You do not give a lot of info about your mom or what you are doing to help her. If you would like to add a bit more info that would help. Is mom living "independently"? If so what are you doing to help her? Can she get caregivers to come in and help so that you get a bit of a break? If she refuses to let anyone other than you help then you back off and do what you can, when you can and what you want to do to help. All that said would work if mom is cognizant. If mom is not cognizant then it is time to look for Memory Care that will be able to care for her 24/7 giving you a break and allowing you to be a daughter (I am assuming you are a daughter if not apologies for the assumption) again and not a caregiver. If you are POA, the one that makes decisions for her then you can place her in a facility that can meet her care needs. If you are not legally POA and she has dementia then you may need to obtain Guardianship. You should talk to an Elder Care Attorney.
As for Respite.. Check with your local Senior Service Center and see if mom qualifies for any programs that will help with caregivers. Check and see if there are Adult Day Programs. Going to a Program 3 times a week will give you a much needed break and mom will get socialization as well and activities. Generally a breakfast, lunch and snack are served and most provide transportation.
If mom is a Veteran the VA may have programs. If dad was/is a Veteran she may qualify for programs based on his service (as long as she did not remarry)
If mom has medical conditions that might make her eligible for Hospice have her evaluated for Hospice. You would get a Nurse 1 time a week, more often if needed. The nurse would order medications and any supplies or equipment that you would need. A CNA that would come 2 times a week to give mom a bath or shower, the CNA would order personal supplies that would be delivered. A Social Worker, Chaplain would be assigned as part of the Team as well. And Medicare, Medicaid and other Insurance will cover Hospice. One of the benefits of Hospice is that Respite is covered as well. (about 1 week each year.)
I would call your local council on aging or agency on aging for pointers of what direction to take toward more help.
If you tell us about your situation, and what ways you have tried to obtain help, we may be able to help you more. Otherwise we will just understand that you needed to vent the extreme hopelessness you feel right now, and will wish for you that it will get better.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you would like to add a bit more info that would help.
Is mom living "independently"? If so what are you doing to help her? Can she get caregivers to come in and help so that you get a bit of a break? If she refuses to let anyone other than you help then you back off and do what you can, when you can and what you want to do to help.
All that said would work if mom is cognizant. If mom is not cognizant then it is time to look for Memory Care that will be able to care for her 24/7 giving you a break and allowing you to be a daughter (I am assuming you are a daughter if not apologies for the assumption) again and not a caregiver.
If you are POA, the one that makes decisions for her then you can place her in a facility that can meet her care needs.
If you are not legally POA and she has dementia then you may need to obtain Guardianship. You should talk to an Elder Care Attorney.
As for Respite..
Check with your local Senior Service Center and see if mom qualifies for any programs that will help with caregivers.
Check and see if there are Adult Day Programs. Going to a Program 3 times a week will give you a much needed break and mom will get socialization as well and activities. Generally a breakfast, lunch and snack are served and most provide transportation.
If mom is a Veteran the VA may have programs. If dad was/is a Veteran she may qualify for programs based on his service (as long as she did not remarry)
If mom has medical conditions that might make her eligible for Hospice have her evaluated for Hospice. You would get a Nurse 1 time a week, more often if needed. The nurse would order medications and any supplies or equipment that you would need.
A CNA that would come 2 times a week to give mom a bath or shower, the CNA would order personal supplies that would be delivered.
A Social Worker, Chaplain would be assigned as part of the Team as well.
And Medicare, Medicaid and other Insurance will cover Hospice.
One of the benefits of Hospice is that Respite is covered as well. (about 1 week each year.)
If you tell us about your situation, and what ways you have tried to obtain help, we may be able to help you more.
Otherwise we will just understand that you needed to vent the extreme hopelessness you feel right now, and will wish for you that it will get better.