I love my mom so much and she is all I have. I've been in tears everyday trying to find her. My Dad and brother are being awful and won't tell me or talk to me. Can someone please help me? My Mom is somewhere out here in the west valley/Goodyear area in a assisted living. God Bless to those who can.
You are new to Forum. I would invite you to stick around and read and you will quickly find that familial disagreements about the management and care of a loved one aren't unusual. While we sure can't help you, being just a mess of caregivers trying to handle/or having handled our own mess of caregiving, we can sympathize and perhaps suggest a few roads for you to try. If any work, you will hopefully update here and that's how we share learning and insight with one another.
In your own case, it seems that your Dad and brother have taken on/taken over the care of your Mom. And it sounds as though a whole lot of water has gone under the bridge that we couldn't conceivably know about, because it is quite rare for family members to refuse to let other loving family members know where a mom, dad or sibling is.
I am thinking there must be a reason.
Can you fill us in on the reason they give you for refusing to allow you to visit your mom?
I would say your best bet is to go through the Lions at the Gate. They are your access to your mother. I think I would try a letter to them begging to be allowed admittance to see your mom. I would promise that I will visit her only with either Dad or brother present. I would promise that I would visit when, where, and for however long they choose. I would promise never to be disruptive to her care, and only to try to help with whatever they, the primary caregivers wish me to do.
That to me is the best chance at getting a foot in the door.
I hope you will not go against there wishes if you find mom, and visit without their knowledge. I fear it may result in a restraining order if your mom has in the past been upset by visits.
The more you tell us about when, where, why and how all this happened, the more likely we are to be able to give you useful hints. Otherwise I can only just wish you the very best of luck going forward and tell you I am sorry you're going through this.