How many of you caregivers have been falsely accused of something like elder abuse by an aging parent or a family member with an ulterior motive? How many had to seek out an attorney? I am all for protecting the vulnerable be they elderly or disabled. But what happened to our rights?
All are common behaviors that are very unpleasant.
This is the unfortunate part of dealing with dementia and our loved ones.
After becoming a DPOA, I keep detailed records of all expenditures, bills, and where all the person's money is invested, in a tabbed binder. Just like before I retired and handled millions in company money as my job.
The extra work involved protects us BOTH.
If you are responsible for caring for an elder, a good diary, one with no tear outs (so a composition book hand written in ink with no erasures) is admissible in almost all courts.
If an elder calls with any erroneous reports it is good for you to welcome any examining entity (Sheriff, police, APS) and be very open and welcoming. Provide access to the elder's MD for questions as regards mentation and etc.
You give us little to go on here, so we can do little to help other than wishing you best of luck.
As to your question, we often see these situations on this Forum, so hopefully stick around a while and read. Paranoia and confusion and delusion is part of dementia. All caregivers can sympathize, and have their own experiences.